Hello!
I'm looking for lots of advice please.
I've never had kids, divorced two years ago and am 7 months into a lovely new relationship.
My OH and I have been chatting about me meeting his kids when the time is right but we both want to get this right, so I have lots of questions.
Firstly, should he tell the kids that they will be meeting me or do you think he should forewarn his ex out of courtesy and have her tell them? -(she has had a new man for two years. My OH's relationship with his ex isn't the greatest, she doesn't encourage the kids to see him and isn't that supportive of him, they are still in and out of court fighting over access).
Secondly, do we be honest and say I am his girlfriend or just start by slowly introducing me as a 'friend' and build up from there. Presumably the kids will tell their mum when they get home and she's likely to ask if I am a girlfriend given that I will be the first woman that he has introduced to the kids.
Thirdly, any top tips on how I can make the first meeting as fun, stress free and successful as possible. (bearing in mind that I have little experience with kids - I know surprisingly little about them but am keen to learn).
The kids are 7 & 8 and my OH only gets to see them every other weekend.
Anything else that I didn't ask that you think I should/should know please feel free to throw in.
Thanks so much in advance.
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Cougar52 · 27/10/2018 21:00
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