I know this will be a triggering title, but try to read the thread first. Please.
How would you react if your adult SS recently revealed that they were sexually abused by a very close relative of their Mother?
The Mother ensured that her sons kept it quiet. For fear of repercussions.
The incidents occurred when the DSSs were very young boys. It now transpires that both DSS were abused by the relative.
We have had many talks with both DSS, and it is certain that it is the truth. The relative was late teens at the time, and apparently had Aspergers.
Regardless of the details, I have 2 adult SSs who both have different mental health issues. Severe mental health issues.
Their Mother is no longer involved in their day-to-day lives. Her absolute prerogative is to protect relative, who 'was not well, or understanding of their actions'.
We only recently became aware of it, because the boys were threatened about what would happen if they revealed the truth.
DP finally told her that he knew the truth last week. He has asked her to contribute 50% to medication prescribed by the GP to help with PTSD.
Her response was that 'it happens in many families, and drugs do more harm than good'.
Since then she has contacted her sons to tell them how 'very vulnerable' the abuser is, and that they must forgive him.
She's an ex drug addict who has turned to mindfulness, yoga, organic everything', because apparently it can heal all ills. 
The boys are both broken , in different ways.
We have received a barrage of messages, since she discovered that we knew the truth. They are completely incriminating, because she is trying to justify her position.
She is also subjecting her DSs to a barrage of similar texts to keep them quiet. Other family members who were aware of the history are following the same path. The abuser must be protected at all costs.
How can a mother justify this. Why has she never helped them? How do we help them?
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Pretendingtobe · 21/10/2018 16:04
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