I am 19. I am my dads only child. I had very limited contact with him from the age of 1 till I was 15. I dont really know why, its something my mother doesnt like talking about. He married my SM when I was 3, she has a son now 25(ish) and a daughter who is 22 so similar in age to me. My dad has raised them, they are very much his children.
I spent a lot of time from the age of 15 with my dad and step family, Im not close to my SB (stepbrother not sure on acronym lol) but I am fairly close to my SS. She can be a bit funny/off wirh me too but I think its jealousy that theres now another daughter in the family which I can understand. However I always feel like the odd one out..
Id go for dinner on a Sunday 4pm-10pm and they was 'strict' with times, like I get the feeling I couldnt just turn up for a visit, or go round if I needed help. They wont even tell me what they do for work, their just vague about being a builder (dad) and a carer (SM). I feel like Im kept at a certain distance?
Anyway now I have a baby myself. They visit every few weeks (say they are too busy most of the time) and my dads very quiet he doesnt really speak to me and SM can be patronising. For example, making comments about how I should go to college to do more with my day, how shes going to work because "someone has to". It comes across as really nasty and awkward sometimes. A few weeks ago they was meant to come for dinner but SM cancelled I asked if everything was ok she said she just fancied a chill day and couldn't be bothered going out. They live 10 minutes away.
SS boyfriend is always at their house for dinner, they speak about him fondly, invite him out for meals etc etc yet my boyfriend they have invited out twice in 2 years. they are ignorant to him and hes picked up on it.
I really dont understand why they bother with me if they seemingly dont like me? Sometimes it feels like SM controls my dad and is jealous of me having a relationship with him. It makes me feel so unwanted
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I dont understand my dad/SM
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Marliyaloo · 16/10/2018 20:09
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