Hi looking for advice/thoughts, me and husband met when both of our children were 10 and 11. We had one child each from previous relationships. Kids are now 19 & 20.
Initially kids got on great, then they had one row, we all spoke about the row, step son admitted he lied about her hitting him- we thought nothing of it, it wasn't a major row or so we thought...
From that day on my step son ignored my daughter as if she was invisible every time he came to stay with us.
We tried to address it several ways and years past still no joy. My daughter was feeling like there was something wrong with her and wandered why he treated her this way.
I tried desperately to talk to him, as too did his dad and we went out of our way to do everything we could for him. Yet inside I felt sad for my daughter who really tried over the years and was constantly met with being ignored.
Years passed there was little improvement and it all blew up one evening when they were about 17/18. we had all been out to our local with both kids and my daughters boyfriend. My step son sat on the picnic table with his back to my daughter, her boyfriend and me and ignored us all evening and it really was awkward/upsetting.
Now I feel quite frustrated as step son never comes to see us, We have seen him twice this year. He goes weeks without speaking to his father, who loves him dearly and he is a fantastic dad.
I know reading this it seems there must be a reason however I can honestly say I am baffled, he has a great dad, my daughter always accepted him as did I and we went out of our way to do everything we could I just don't get it. I don't know what else I can do to help my husband who is becoming increasingly upset by the situation.
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princess8 · 14/10/2018 18:35
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