Hi basically my 12 yo stepdaughter came to live with us 6 weeks ago as her mother would not stop taking drugs and drinking. She is an alcoholic and drug abuser - we were told she stopped but she hadn’t and so DH took her into our care. Social services said I’d SS is in her BM care SS will go into child protection.
So DH told BM she need to make arrangements for a contact centre as her drinking.
Meanwhile we live in a small place and everyone knows everyone and BM was seen out drunk and taking drugs.
She then text DH after 2 weeks not contacting SD that she wants to see SD but can’t afgord a contact centre but she has been out regually drinking and taking drugs so DH explained if you can afford this you can afford a contact centre - it’s £15 an hour here.
Still nothing - no arrangement etc
BM pays no child auooort or suppose SD with nothing we pay for everything.
SD is becoming down again as her BM won’t ever put her first - her words thing is I know BM hasn’t ever really wanted her BM has said to me a couple times so I want to have her instead of her.
SD has had counselling we out her in private counselling as doctor wouldn’t help. We can not afford to pay for a contact centre as well as everything else and BM has never provided for SD we have been buying everything SD needs since I came in the Scene 6 years ago.
Thing is what can we say to SD as to why her mums not seeing her - she knows about contact centre as social services sole to her about this. How can we explain we can’t make her BM see her ?
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Lalameme · 13/10/2018 12:02
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