Nearly 18 years ago my mother had a small inheritance. She invested it and with the resulting income, set up a savings account to assist her grandchildren to pay towards (university) education.
I'd completely forgotten about it until she reminded me a few weeks ago, as my eldest is just applying for university.
My issue is that in this long time she's been saving, I've married, had children, divorced, and now I'm in a a new relationship with a wonderful man who has two lovely sons.
I'm planning on getting remarried in the next few years.
So my new family was never part of her plan for her grandchildren.
What to do? Should I do anything? I haven't told my partner as I'd forgotten about her savings pot until recently. To be honest, she's not mentioned it since it was set up, and over the years I though she might have spent it or that it had been used for other things.
Now I feel guilty that my biological children will benefit from this pot and my future step children will not. We strive to treat all our children equally as we should.
But, and it's a big but, this is her savings for her grandchildren.
Should I even get involved?
She's made it clear it's between her and her grandchildren when they reach adulthood.
She won't tell me how much is saved but I'm thinking it could possibly be enough to fund each of her grandchildren through the first 1- 2
years of university. It's not a small sum. Definitely not the sort of sum we could find to give the others to compensate.
Any wise advice welcomed.
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deliciouscheesecake · 28/09/2018 20:38
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