So finally we are starting the process to get court acess to the kids. The ex keeps witholding contact at short notice eg ten pm last night for school pick up today, we are supossed to have 50:50. Thebcalander for contact is agreed in advance and we have it in writing. The reasons are the little one didn't want to have to try new meals (we do stuff she likes four meals out of five and the fifth is something new accompanied by two side dishes she will definitely eat). This is a ridiculous reason to withhold contact especially as she has swimming lessons which we pay for that she won't go to now as ex refused to take her.
We have tried to resolve this issue but its ongoing, contact has been refused several time for spurious reasons such as above or wanting to do x instead, with ex stating that it's not respecting the emotional well-being of the children - all under eleven. For reference they do homework here have clothes here are fed and we pay for two of their three hobbies that they do and do 50% of school pickups etc.
Finally we are broken and are going to court ourselves to get the agreement in writing enforced. I assume it's normal process and we just need to bring evidence of our efforts etc?
Also we pay well over the CMS calculation - which is £28 a month due to low income but we manage to find 7x that plus pay for food, hobbies etc as the kids enjoy these. Personally I think we should drop to the CMS calculation until this is resolved.
Honestly I think it's a disgrace that children are used as pawns and I can't imagine a situation where I would do that with my own son.
Sorry for the rant!
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Spanglyprincess1 · 11/09/2018 08:20
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