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I previously posted on here before about my two SC (two girls) and my OH being idle when it comes to their care. Since then I have had a discussion with my OH about how I help as much as I can but ultimately they are his responsibility and I don't expect to be doing everything and it went well - he has made vast improvements since. The one thing he does seem to be unwilling to change that I don't quite understand though is bedtimes. 6&8 SC go to bed as late as 11 every night we have them irrelevant of what's happening the next day (school, me working early, a morning trip out) And by "bed", I mean they are sent to their room with access to a Nintendo switch, netflix and tablets for as long as they wish with the main light left on all night. My question - is this normal. I don't have children myself and to me I'd be reading them a story around 8-9pm (for those ages) removing screen access and turning off the light to enforce sleep. I work late shifts in a call centre as a manager most of the time and I'm out early in the morning most of the time too (days off we spend taking out SC) so night time is the only time I feel that I have child free to relax and watch something that's not for kids or have a glass of prosecco. Apart from when they are at their mums of course but as I work full time and they are there every weekend I feel it's fair I should get some time to myself/with OH between 9-11pm (all joking aside this seriously affects our sex life as I'm exhausted by 11-12 and they are generally still awake and I feel uncomfortable that they might hear us). Sometimes I hear the Nintendo on to 3-4am. It disrupts my sleep and makes me feel like I don't get any leisure time in my home that isn't kiddy focused. I love my SC and proposed to OH we take away screens after a certain point at night to which he said no he'll just ask them to be quieter (unsurprisingly this didn't work as they get excitable easy and share a room). They are up and down all night too. Is this a personal preference thing? As a non parent can I ask how other peoples bed time routines work? Tyi
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Struggling345 · 18/08/2018 15:36
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