Hi All, I have a lovely stepson who stays with us around 2 nights a week and am really trying hard to be a great stepmum. However as we are now thinking about having our own child I have worries about how that will work. My DP pays his child maintenance as he should of course but I worry if that will mean we will struggle financially with our own child- finding the money for expensive childcare etc. My stepsons mum also asks us to have him quite often- if she wants to go out we kind of have to drop everything to go and get him so there’s not much of a routine. She also likes to be very involved in what we do together and has even suggested the 4 of us all go on holiday together which I’d be very uncomfortable with! I guess I just want to know if anyone had a their own child in a situation like this and how to make it work. I just want to make sure there would be no detrimental effects on a child of my own Thanks xxx
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