Hi there,
I need advice on how to handle a situation with SD, who's generally a nice girl. We used to have a good relationship, but I don't know how to qualify our relationship since my baby, almost 11 months, is born. She normally comes every other weekend during the school year and stays for a few days in a row here and there during the summer, so now tension is a bit higher since there's more contact.
She has 3 older brothers but she's in love with the baby. Which is normal, but what surprises me is that she seems jealous about the BABY. I had situations, when he was a new born, where she would grab him in the way that I explained not to do. She would try to wrestle the stroller out of my hands, instead of just asking. She would try to grab the baby our of my arms without asking. If he cried, she would try to run to him before me. She would say it's her baby, not mine.....And it wasn't because she wasn't allowed to play with him. She was. But she wanted more. While it was in small quantités it was ok. But now that she's more time with us, it's more frequent and it annoys me and I want so much to be nice, but I feel fake and I feel bad about it!
She's often behind giving me advice on what to do about the baby. "Did you wash his hands?", "Did you change his diaper, he peed?", "Did you clean up after him?", "But if you move the stroller, he'll be on the sun", "But if you put him on the ground, he'll eat the mulch", "Don't go too far away in the lake, it's deep"....Worse than my mom. Not to mention that she could kiss him 10 times in like 5 min when I hold him, which to me feels like smothering. I like affection, but in too big of a quantity, to me it feels like it's an invasion of space and I can't help but feel annoyed. To me, siblings are there to play with each other, which she gets to do a lot, so I don't understand this involvement.
To this, I should add that she told me stupid twice this week, supposedly as a joke. She also told me that she doesn't think I'll be in her life when he has a baby, because I will be separated from her father, that we're staying together just for the baby....
Should I just swallow it? But then I have trouble being authentic with her. Or should I say something? I want a good relationship...
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Anuta77 · 13/08/2018 21:30
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