Posting on here for advice as I'm a step mum but a RP.
Dsd has come back from a holiday with Nan saying she does not want to see her mum anymore.
I'm really conflicted as she comes to me for advice about this. Her dad and I try and get her mum over to see the children as much as we can but she went 8 months without seeing them regularly, I think she saw them once each in that time.
Mum is currently pregnant with a dd and dsd has been expressing increasing feelings of unhappiness about her mum for a variety of reasons.
I've been pushing them to see her as much as I can. Set up as once a month at first and I set up activities for them to do and cook etc.
When it went well I started pushing for twice a month.
It's floored me that dsd is now saying she doesn't want to see her. What can we do to help repair this before dsd decides this course. Will mum blame us? How do I support this child in the best way? My heart hurts as I want her to be as happy as I can, whilst not replacing mum and helping her to have a happy life. My own mum encouraged me to see my Dad until I was 14 and then I said enough was enough and I didn't want to anymore and if I did it would be on my terms.
She is 12. Dss is disabled and does not have an opinion on this and struggles with her when she visits. So it's more a question for dsd.
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HerondaleDucks · 13/08/2018 15:05
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