Hi all, looking for advice before I throw the towel in. Been with my partner for over 5 years, I have a 10 old boy. He has two children boy aged 13 and girl aged 11.
The blended family thing was amazing for the first 4 years, kids all got on (argued at times, but only usual stuff) we went on holidays together and always made sure we did fun stuff when his kids came to visit.
We haven’t rushed in the relationship and only moved in together 3 years in. We moved to a gorgeous 4 bed so all had own room. Life really was looking good and I was so happy to have my blended family.
We went on holiday last August, had a fab time. Came back and out of the blue and two weeks later my partners girl refused to come saying she didn’t want to see me. She couldn’t give any reason why to my partner or even her mum.
We are now a year on and my partner has to take her on a day out separately, she still won’t say what I have done to upset her. Of im honest and reading between the lines her mum is quite nasty and Jelous and think she has always said things in front of the kids. so don’t think that has helped.
My partner is torn and we have debated over the last year as to what to do for the best, splitting up and to be honest it has put a massive strain on our relationship. He is torn and does not know what to do, as he says I have done nothing wrong and don’t deserve this but he obviously wants to maintain a relationship. He will not talk to to his ex as she can be awkward and I suspect she is maybe fulling the fire, although I’m confused as to what her motives would be, she left my partner for another man some 8 year she before we got together and is now married to him. He can’t or won’t talk to his daughter because she’s crys and then doesn’t want to spend time with him. It’s also had an effect on my son who loved being part of a blended family and can’t understand it either, his son is 13 and comes less but this is down to him being all for his friends and busy.
On one hand I think cut losses and run and hopefully she will start seeing him like she used to and on the other I’m thinking why should outle relationship be decided upon an 11 year olds actions, for no good reason at that.
We have spoke about splitting up and he I think he is also I two minds, I overheard him talking to his brother earlier and planning a day out with the kids, but whispering so not to hurt my feelings abs he daughter won’t allow myself or son to go.
I was always mindful of not making her jealous, we hardly showed any affection to each other when she’s was around, so not to make her jelous.
Anyways, sorry for the war and peace and if you got to the end thank you. Any advice would be appreciated xx
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Natlouc · 08/08/2018 23:26
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