AIBU to think they should tidy up after themselves?
I don't expect them to do chores when they are here but I do expect them to tidy up after themselves.
Examples of not doing this would be:
Not tucking chair in after leaving the table at dinner.
Not bothering to wash up their breakfast bowl or just putting it in the dishwasher, leaving it on the side in the kitchen instead.
I left a bowl of mini Easter eggs out in the living room that my DM bought for us all and told the kids to help themselves. Spent weeks finding the wrappers down the sides of the sofas despite the fact we have a small wicker bin in the living room!
We have a designated place for shoes to be put away in the entrance hall and the eldest still just leaves her shoes in the middle of the floor. (The others put their shoes away)
Their bedrooms were a complete state. So much so that for months I refused to go in and clean them until they were tidied up. This never happened so eventually I went in and blitzed the rooms, cleared out, tidied and cleaned them.
I don't moan or tell the kids off. I don't feel it's my place to as I'm not their parent. I always tell DP and ask him if he can have a word. He would tell them half heartedly to tidy their rooms but doesn't say anything about anything else, I.e tidying up after themselves. I'm sick of mentioning it to him.
When I moaned about their bedrooms, it took me an entire week to clear, tidy and clean both bedrooms, I told DP I didn't want to find them in that state again and would not be cleaning them again as I have done. He said if I feel strongly about it then I should talk to the kids.
I think it should have been him that spoke to them as their parent and not me.
However he never does and this is my home too and I don't expect to have to keep tidying up after them. I'm getting close to having to say something to them as it's just not fair but still think it's DPs job to do so.
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boombamboom · 02/08/2018 14:08
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