Hi,
Have namechanged for this post, although haven't posted on this thread for a while!
Backstory: Extremely hostile ex-wife - horribly controlling to the point of trying to control what DSD (8) eats / wears / sleeps etc when she's with us. (I wouldn't necessarily mind except she's saying things like she needs biscuits throughout the day and before bed) A lot she says I feel verges on parents alienation towards him and you can tell it gets to DSD because she cries and gets upset when she says things her mum has told her to my DP.
Anyway... I've known her since she was 3 and I have a child with my partner now also.
This week she's with us for a week which is the longest BM has ever "allowed" her to stay... (not for the want of asking)
So dilemma: this morning DSD asks me if she can call me "Mum" when she's hear. I literally didn't know what to say. I ended up saying that she can call me whatever she feels comfortable calling me and if she wants to stick to GreenAndSilverBoxes she can do that... so all day now she's been calling me mum. Now don't get me wrong I've known this kid for years and I would say I do love her and having her here... but I know this is going to cause absolute hell with BM.
Her and DP are due at court soon and I think this is all going to explode!
Any idea how I should have played it? Should I have said no? I didn't want to say no in case it made her feel bad 😞 help!
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GreenAndSilverBoxes · 01/08/2018 18:40
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