Hi guys, just needing some advice. So after much debates we have finally got the ex wife to agree that we can drive up every other Friday to see my stepkids. (Bit of background she has stopped them staying EOW and they live 108 miles away. Originally she was making my partner have to get two trains up and back with our 11minth old every other Saturday because I worked and my mum couldn't have both boys, and he would only get to spend 5hours there before getting train home and getting the train was costing him a fortune. For a while she was making him go to the town next door so for him to see them he was spending £50 on trains and then anything Upto £100 on the day out and food, whereas if she simply let him have the kids in his home town they would have had family close by.) The Saturdays weren't working as if train delays or cancellations he was screwed. So she has agreed to Fridays. We are due to go up next Friday making the 216 mike round trip to see them, however we are then being allowed to have them for a week the following Wednesday. My partner has said to her that he is thinking of not coming up the Friday as it seems silly spending more on fuel when we are collecting them for a week a few days later and what we save on fuel is more days out for them to visit. we did ask if we could have them girls from that Friday but she has said no it has to be the Wednesday a few days later. Are we really being unreasonable would you think? It's not like he won't be seeing them and he is just trying to enable us to have more money when they are down. She has already had a go this week asking if we will bother to contribute to uniform this year which we have just taken in our stride as we know how stressful it gets, my stepdad is also suffering at the moment as my mum is away for 4 weeks on holiday with school so he took us all to Peppa Pig world all expensive paid and she made us feel so guilty for going. But when the girls come
Down for the week we have got some big days our planned with them and neither boys will be with us as the eldest will be at his dads and my youngest at nursery. Suppose I am just feeling a bit lows
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Crossroads18 · 31/07/2018 16:25
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