Hello fellow step parents out there.
I'm in a tricky situation and I need advice and guidance.
My partner and I have been together for a while now and the situation between his daughter and her mum has been tricky from day 1.
They live a few 100 miles away from us so we only see her a few times a year (2-3 times). We would see her more but the contact is one sided as the mum refuses to travel part way etc.
Each time we are realising that her attitude towards us is changing and she's saying things a 4 year old shouldn't be saying. Almost as though they are her mums words.
Our most recent visit we had tell her off a number of times for swearing and miss behaving.
We have also noticed the lack of hygiene and her refusing to brush teeth and even flush the loo and wash hands. We have also had to bin the clothes especially the knickers that she comes in as they are hanging on by a thread. So we always send her home with new clean items.
She is paid a large sum of child maintenance and is able to afford the items. But instead we feel like we are providing her with these as well.
The main thing that stressed me out the most. Is that we found out that one of her younger siblings has a highly contagious infection which can transfer through air/skin contact/clothing contact. We only found out about this after having her for a week and allowing her to swim in public pools with other children, having sleepovers etc. I believe we should have been told about this as she could have this contagious infection without us knowing and we may have passed this onto other (I hope not).
I just want to know what you all think as we are struggling to get passed a lot of these situations.
Help help help.
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MissSunny123 · 26/07/2018 17:08
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