I've posted a few times as were going through some life changes at the mo. My baby is now two weeks old. We need to move to accomadate all the children our DS and the three DSC.
We were supossed to be moving a long way away for my work but I've managed to secure something more local when I was heavily pregnant which will allow us to stay local. It isn't ideal for me but was important to dp(despite him saying originally we would move).
I'm finding the house as dp has no way of doing so due to no savings and self employed - house will be in my sole name with appropriate legal protection for me should we split ( I have a solicitor). We need a large house to accomadate the DC. So not house I would want for myself really but it's what we need.
I'm starting to resent his presumptions regarding the move. His children live 13 miles from us as his ex moved away, they were 3miles away before she moved. We have them 50%. He wants us to move to same area as ex despite this being less covient for me n more expensive plus further from my family support. He has told children and his ex about the house hunt too, IE in same area despite us not agreeing this. He also seemed confused about my room allocations - the biggest room his two ds will share and they are happy to do so. Next biggest our son will have as he is resident with us. Smallest room will be for his dd.
When we were house viewing his said oh I'm sure she will be ok with it but seemed surprised as wanted her to have second biggest- I was annoyed as , 1) she dosnt get a say as long as she has a suitable room and 2) why would he have assumed our son who loves with us full time wouldn't need a bigger room as he will have all of his stuff. These sort of issues need ironing out really as I can't see them causing longer term arguments.
I'm probably very hormonal as two weeks post birth but I'm starting to feel like a cash cow rather than having my opinions valued equally.
Has anyone joint bought and how did everything get agreed regarding housing and room allocations?
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Spanglyprincess1 · 20/07/2018 08:29
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