Keeping it short, so apologies if I leave anything out.
DP works evenings / nights in an environment where kids can be present, but it's not an ideal place to be.
DSS12 sometimes goes with him on early shifts, but hates being there on late ones (understandably).
Since I moved in with DP last year, his hours have increased, and I'm frequently staying home with DSS while DP works.
He has no other childcare options at the moment (hasn't asked friends or family or neighbours if DSS can go over to play for the evening / stay over).
Today I'm told at midday that DSS is staying over tonight, and asked "Does that work?"
It has to work, really, doesn't it?
I don't have much other choice, given that he doesn't have another option. And I'm starting to feel a bit 'glorified babysitter', except without any glory...
I was planning to meet a friend this evening, and it is easily moved, but I'm just starting to resent the assumption that I'll always find a way to make things work when it comes to DSS, especially when it's a last-minute decision. I know I COULD say no, but that's leaving DSS having to go to work with him and he's really not going to enjoy that at all. I'd feel like a real b$%ch saying no, so I won't, but I'm not over the moon about it.
If it were me, I'd imagine I'd find an alternative childcare option and at least ask my partner before deciding I could take my child for an unexpected night at home... but maybe that's me as a non-parent talking?
AIBU?
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ladybee28 · 26/06/2018 15:10
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