My partners ex wife is so unreasonable. She wants him to have contact blah blah and then shuts him down.
She hasn't been letting the kids stay since Christmas as she felt them travelling 2 hours to stay and then to home was disruptive to school and apparently their behaviour was horrible when they went home as the wanted to live with daddy. Plus she gets more csa once we finally went to them. His eldest daughter is away on camp this weekend, his youngest won't go with him unless he buys her toys and does big extravagant days out. I asked the ex wife as a surprise if I could pick the youngest up Friday after school with dp and we have her the weekend for Father's Day. I explained I would have her for a few hours the Sunday whilst
Dp was working (hence why he couldn't
Go on eldest camp) and we would then collect eldest from camp and have dinner out before taking home. Her answer was no as it disrupts school, he hasnt bought toys recently for the kids, he couldn't make one weekend as he was ill, he won't pay her extra maintenance, because he isn't taking them on holiday, because he's a good step dad to my son and our son together. Believe he lied last weekend he was due to go up and see them and didn't, because he can't rake holiday from work
To have them school holidays but he finishes at 1pm so I would have them mornings and he afternoons.
So this weekend trains are all
Over the place and instead of two trains up there it would have been 3 trains and a bus, which taking our 10month old wouldn't be fun whilst I have to work. And there is no family that can have him aswell as my 3 year old my mum can't have both and my dad is on call at the fire station. So dp asked if instead of the Saturday we drove up the Friday picker her up from school, had dinner and visited family or Drove up after work Sunday, picked eldest up from camp and we all go out for dinner and visit his dad. Both days would mean we would have seen them for 5 hours which is same amount of time
If he went the Saturday. She has now had a massive rant at him again. Why can't she ever just be reasonable. She has got friends watching our facebooks and reporting back what we do with the boys etc as she has just had a go at us for booking tickets to the theatre for my eldest sons birthday and my birthday instead of a party. And because his mum came and stayed and visited us. She isn't making any of this easy.
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Myboys2018 · 14/06/2018 19:51
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