Hello,
It’s very difficult for me to write this but I have no where else to turn for advice or a different point of view on this situation.
I’ll try and begin where I feel is best but firstly I would like to point out I’m early 20’s and my husband is 50, I mention this because it may get confusing if you didn’t know.
Ok, so let just say for arguement sake my husband has only ever had 3 serious relationships, including his marriage with me. As these are the only relevant relationships.
When my husband was in his late 20’s/ early 30’s he was with, who I’d say was his first love, let’s call her A. I believe A was late teens and was desperate to have a baby! They were together for a few years and they tried so hard to have a baby but it never happened, she then started having awful pains and large cycsts in her ovaries where growing. They were removed and she had the all clear, but still no joy in falling pregnant. At this point they assumed her cysts was why she wasn’t falling pregnant. Over a year later, she still wasn’t pregnant. A then started buying baby clothes, my husband and A decided to go their separate ways as it was tearing them both apart (I found this sad) however, not long after they split - A had been dating a different man straight after and announced her pregnancy within 2/3 months. (I feel this is important as you may look at this differently to me.)
Anyway, my husband then went on to marry his first wife, lets call her B. After 3.5 years of trying they welcomed their son (my step son). Now I need to mention this, because this has a lot of people guessing - B was known in the area for being very flirtatious and had cheated previously, bareing in mind everyone knew my husband and A couldn’t get pregnant, then of course she did get pregnant pretty much straight after her split with my husband, a lot of people assumed my husband was the problem (except my husband himself). B had always told my husband she can remember exactly when their son was conceived, what they were doing, where they were... meanwhile my husband can’t remember, even when she told him this soon after they announced their pregnancy he said he still couldn’t remember, but she told him he must of been too drunk.
I didn’t think anything of this until my husband told me that he didn’t
Want anymore children with B because everything changed after having their son for the worst. He then went on to tell me that it was strange because even though he didn’t want anymore children neither him or B used any precautions! Many years later, and after they’re 15(ish) years of marriage they divorce (because she cheated, again) - still only having one child. Now, I think my step son was either an absolute MIRACLE CHILD or.... I don’t want to say it.
Now onto myself. Me and my husband have been married for 3.5 years we’ve have been actively trying for a child since day 1. Nothing.
I’ve been checked, everything is fine with me.
I have tracked my periods, my fertile window, my temperate, my CM, when we have sex, how often we have sex, we’ve taken up more excercise, we’ve drastically changed our diet over a year ago. We are super duper healthy. And I’m sitting here putting all of this together.... thinking this isn’t happening? Am I going over the top?
I’ve mentioned to my husband in conversation, not nastily of course, but just in conversation. I said- I just don’t think you son is actually yours, and he didn’t reply, in which I left it at that. I don’t want to hurt anyone, but B has done a lot of illegal things against my husband and he’s let her get away with it because she’s the mother of his child. I also need to mention my husband is very comfortable... and my husband has always said B is driven by money.
I don’t know what to think.... is he a miricle child? Did she do the dirty on her husband at the time? What do I do? My husband is still paying for him and always has done (his 16 nearly 17 now) although every year she gets lump sums of money from my husband, for their son also.
All I’m thinking is, did she know what she was doing?
I would REALLY REALLY REALLY appreciate someone’s input on this! Even if it’s just one person! I would be so grateful!
Thank you!
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