Hi,
Sorry I'm new to this but I will try get everything across so please bear with me!
DH and I are trying to draw up a parenting plan for him and DSS mother to suggest to her. DSS is 7. DSS mother is very hostile towards DH and the purpose of said plan is to hopefully reduce conflict between them.
The longest DSS has ever spent with us consecutively is 3 nights - her choice. She also will not permit him to go on holiday with us.
I've seen here before and feel a need to say that DH and I have been together for 5 years and we have a child of our own. I was not the OW, she left him and we got together about a year after their split.
DH is going to propose taking DSS EOW Friday from school until Monday morning again at school. He is also going to suggest half of the holidays for Easter and summer. EXW is happy for OH to take DSS over holidays because it helps with childcare but she does not want it to be in consecutive nights more than 3 nights at a time because she misses him too much. Even when he is with us for 2/3 nights DH is bombarded with text messages and phone calls during that time which is really intrusive in to his time with DSS and in all honestly puts a fair amount of strain on our relationship.
I suppose my main question is how much contact do you think is reasonable with resident parent when child is with non resident parent? We're trying to go to email rather than texts. Would you say one email a day when he is with us is sufficient to suggest? Should he be phoning her during that time? For more extended time we are going to try get a consecutive week - how much is reasonable then? And how often would DSS be expected to be in contact with her eg. Via video call? Obviously if DSS wants or asked to phone his mum we would never say no to that - but he's never asked before, it is her who insists we set time aside to make him phone her.
Does anybody have any experience of what main points should be covered for a parenting plan of a 7 year old in a situation where ideally we'd have as much limited / indirect contact with EXW while having as much time with DSS as is reasonable.
Thanks in advance. Sorry if any of that was unclear!
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FiveHappyFrogs · 07/05/2018 09:09
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