Hi everyone
Bit if background. I have an 11 year old DSS. He lives with his mum in a city 250 miles away. His mum moved away when her and my DH seperated when DSS was 3. DH couldn't move too because hes cares for his parents. DH travels to see his son every other weekend and we have him for most of the holidays. He is a fantastic dad.
We also have a 7 month old DS.
That's the background but Im happy to answer any more questions!
Basically, I'm not sure what is fair and was wondering what other stepfamilies do.
My mum gave me a little bit of money to treat myself with. I suggested that we take DS to the zoo this weekend. He loves animals and loves going the farm and I thought, as its going to be lovely and sunny, DH is not in work/away/with his parents, it would be a lovely treat!
DH doesnt think he can because he feels sad at the thought of DSS missing out. He suggests we wait until DSS is next up in the half term.
I do understand his point of view but I also feel sad because I feel like our DS is missing out (I know he's only 7 months, I more mean in the long term if this keeps happening)
DSS doesnt like the zoo, he finds it boring. I wouldn't suggest a day out that I think DSS would like if he couldn't come.
I was wondering what other step-families do in this situation? Do you only do days out when everyone is together?
I want to do what's right for everyone but really dont want my son to be missing out
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I really don't know what is fair in this situation
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babysharkdodododododo · 04/05/2018 18:11
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