I am a mum of a 12 year old, been with my partner 4 years he has 2 children with his ex age 5 & 8. He has a pretty much 50/50 care arrangement with the children and due to this I am quite hands on with them when they are with us and have a good relationship. His relationship with his ex is on good terms 90% of the time. I have a reasonable relationship with her, although she does grate on me somewhat because I don't think she does as much as she can for the children when they are with her in some respects, but I try not to judge and keep this to myself as it is hard being a single mum to young children (been there myself).
My partner is having a few family issues at the moment with ill relatives and on there usual weekday night that they stay with us he needed to be elsewhere visiting hospital, so I said not to worry I will pick them up and take them home and then when he gets home he can spend a bit of time with them before bed. I have done this before, as it is easier to keep arrangements in place than start swapping days etc. I work full time, so text the ex during the day to say I will pick them up on the way through back from work. She replied to say can I feed them tea please because she's got 'nothing in'. I said ok, was a bit disgruntled, she doesn't work, so it probably wouldn't be too difficult to get to the shops and whip up a spag bol, but I agree as I will be making dinner for us anyway.
When I arrive to pick them up, they both sat in the living room each munching their way through a large bag of sweets. I said 'oh have they had dinner then?' she said no. I said 'oh because they're eating sweets, they might not want their dinner' she said 'yer but they said they were hungry and were asking for them'. I said nothing more on the matter, shoes and coated up the kids and took them home. I was seething a bit, because they were hungry because they hadn't been made dinner by their mum and had to wait for me to pick them up (5.30pm) and take them home and make them dinner. Which they didn't eat much of in the end, maybe because they'd been munching sweets.
My partner then gets in from hospital visit and asks what did I say to ex to upset her when I picked them up because she's been on the phone to him kicking off about it. She's given him the 'that woman can't come in my house and tell me how to look after my kids' speech! I don't think that I did a thing to provoke that reaction to be honest, or should I have totally kept my mouth shut??
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user1473756940 · 27/04/2018 09:35
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