I’ve got 2 Ds and a dss 18 who has lived with us for 2 years. Over the last few months I’ve began to feel resentful of him being here. He’s lovely but the dynamics have changed as he’s become an adult and where as when he was younger I felt comfortable asking him to do things or not as the case maybe it’s almost like I feel like a stranger in my own home as he’s become an adult. It feels almost strange having a ‘man child’ His girlfriend comes over regularly but sometimes I wish they could go to his mums who only lives 15 minutes away. Instead I feel resentful for doing all his washing cooking meals etc when his mum does very little or nothing for him. Just this week started anti depressants as it’s all got a bit over whelming. dH is supportive and obviously wants Ds to be happy as do I. Any advice on dealing with an older step child. I’m happy him being here but finding the balance between letting him do his own thing and letting him get away with doing nothing and me then resenting him for it. He spends 6 nights a week seeing his GF either at her parents or here which includes them eating either here or her mums. Any advice appreciated.
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