So dh has been wanting to take dss to start rugby lessons.
Dss must of mentioned this to his mum as last night it was brought up during a FaceTime.
The ex then messaged dh to say she had found some lessons on a Sunday, very close to her house. She would also like to be a part of the lessons even though we would be paying for it.
Dh replied no for the below reasons:
- Dss lives 40 mins away. These lessons are too far from us. Too much travelling for dss basically.
- Dh also has a dd who comes to us every Sunday and these lessons would not fit in around her pick up time - ex knows this
- He wants father/son time with dss. He doesn't want her there. This is his thing to do with him. (He didn't reply quite like that but that's basically what he wants).
She replied and then totally changed her mind. Her excuse was she doesn't want him to do rugby incase he gets hurt lol. And he turns into a 'mean and nasty' child - her words.
So what's the deal with this? She was happy for him to start lessons as long as she could go too. Now that dh has said no (which I'm glad he did) she's in total disagreement with it.
We are down on the waiting list for dss to start and he will be going to a club that's close to us so her reply has not made the slightest bit of difference to dh.
I just don't get it. These lessons are expensive and it won't surprise me if dss misses the lessons because of her. He comes to us one weekend fri - sun and then alternate just Sunday's. The days he comes to us just Sunday's, she drops him off. She will have to drop him for 9.30 so dh gets to the lessons on time. I really can imagine her being late on purpose so dss misses the lesson.
Dh asked if he could start having dss every Saturday night to make it easier but ex said no. Even though she works Saturday nights and leaves dss with a baby sitter.
Just frustrated. My dcs don't have much of a relationship it's their dad. Then there's my dh who is trying to do everything he can for dss and she just makes it difficult.
She was fine and all excited for him to go until she was told he wasn't doing lessons near her house. I really do think it's all because she knew it would spoil the routine he has with his dd. She's always had a problem that dh has another child.