DSS is an only child, eow with us - not through choice, we'd like more access, DSS's mum feels through the week is too disruptive to his routine and DH won't go down the court route as feels to upsetting. Every weekend DSS (10) gets up before us, plays on his console or watches TV. Then I get up, offer breakfast, water - same stock answer not hungry. DH gets up and offers breakfast, he says yes to that ! - which he wolfs down so must be starving. (Btw he will only have been up 30 or so mins before us) He knows where everything is but won't help himself. I hate the thought of him being hungry. I asked him to make himself toast the other day and he looked at me like i'd asked him to make a Sunday dinner. He didn't have a clue and I had to show him. I've put a snack box in the fridge for him - told him to have anything from it at any time. (Its full of things he likes) but he won't help himself. Same with even a drink of water !! We offer constantly, but I'd like him to feel he can help himself !! He'll rarely entertain himself. Constantly seems bored. He has his own room and den - with TV and console, stacks of Lego, toys, books. He still has things from Christmas he hasn't looked at. DH spends time with him alone, takes him out to the park etc, but he lacks interest or motivation. Any tips ...... feel a bit stuck, we both do. (His parents have never been together, if that's at all relevant) Apparently he's very interested and motivated at home, but doesn't do any chores etc.
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Onthewrongsideof30 · 16/04/2018 09:28
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