I have been in my dsd life for 5 years. She is a challenging child but this is down to the parenting (or lack of!) and I in no way blame her for it. But she is extremely difficult to live with. She is coming up to 10 yo. We have her 2 nights in the week and every other weekend Friday to Sunday evening. My problem is the lack of parenting. I think my DP is what is known as a Disney dad. Unfortunately her dm is a Disney Mum! I have tried to set some boundaries over the years but I don’t get any back up and as a step parent I am limited. I do have a good relationship with dsd. I do crafts with her, take her girly shopping and day trips but it’s getting to the point where I’ve lost all respect for my DP. Every single time she comes over she sits down to eat, says it looks disgusting and gets hysterical. She then flounces out of the room crying and wailing. Ten minutes later she’ll be back and eat everything on the plate. This happens at every meal time. She is generally a cry baby and very attention seeking. Can I say though that the attention is always on her when she comes and she does do father/daughter time on her own with dad too. She also is 3 stone overweight and wets the bed every single night (here and at mums). I told my DP 2 years ago to take her to the Dr, which he did. The Dr ordered blood tests but she is refusing to have them and neither of her parents have made her. Also in the 5 years I’ve known her she has never had a good word to say about anyone. She is nasty to all of us and is always telling us we look old/fat/ugly. But at school she is completely different. Quiet, shy, doesn’t say boo to a goose.
It’s not dsd who is frustrating me though. It’s DP. I’ve tried talking to him about it but he gets so defensive and starts picking holes about my DS (18 yo and off to uni in Sept). I’m ready to walk away from my relationship because of this. Has anyone else been through this and can give me some advice? I feel like I’m treading on egg shells in my own home and that my dsd is either a very unhappy little girl or completely spoilt! But what can I do if neither of her parents will listen?
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I’ve lost all respect for DP. Is there any way back?
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Sammysees · 19/03/2018 13:33
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