After a lot of time in court, our DD spends roughly equal time with Mum and Dad.
In the past, Mum has sent DD with photos of her and instructed us that DD should sleep with them. However, DD does not want to sleep with the photos and keeps them in a toy box instead. She knows where they are, she gets them when she wants them.
Mum found out and was not happy (accused us for hiding them!) and for a little while chased DD every day to ask where the photos were and to remind her to 'kiss them before she goes to sleep' . DD didn't like being checked up on so she started to pretend that she didn't know where they were.
Couple of months later, DD has turned up with a specially made photo fridge magnet of them and has been instructed to put it on our fridge. DD has done so.
Again, we have no problems with DD keeping photos of Mum (we've asked her a few times if she'd like some framed in her room)...but AIBU to think that was a little overly pushy of Mum - to get something specially made to be displayed on the fridge (not somewhere DD is often). There's no indication from DD that this is something she wants, just "Mum says..."
For context, our relationship with Mum is as bad as it could get (EA, DV you name it, she did it) but now that there's boundaries in place, it's much improved. Although we still put up with her telling DD this is not her 'real home' that Dad doesn't do things right etc.
We will just put up with the photo but I wanted to hear from others...it's not really ok behaviour from Mum, is it? If we sent the equivalent to Mum's house to go on her fridge, she would be raging...
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Rosebud4 · 12/03/2018 14:10
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