Bit of a background - So my step-son is almost 5 and lives with us full time and has for just under a year now. He still sees mom on holidays and talks to her on the phone every other day. He was taken from her due to her new boyfriend being convicted of child abuse and her having drug problems.
Now when he first cane he was a nasty angry and manipulative boy, he hit my daughter (1 year younger than him) with fists and with objects. He gave her black eyes frequently and would push her down stairs - she is now (understandably) scared of him. He ignored me and told me his mum would kick me in the head all the time, he threw tantrums about everything and when I done up his bedroom for him, to help him feel at home, he gouged holes in the newly painted walls and threw his toys around his room and broke them. This is only some of the things he would do. He also nagged constantly from the second he woke up to the second he went to bed, and screamed for 2-3 hours at bed time constantly sneaking out of bed - we got maybe 30 mins of him being happy a day.
It took 7 months but he started making some huge positive changes and even more after our new baby was born. And we started bonding really well and he was loving towards us all FINALLY. I bend over backwards to make him feel a part of our family and loved and keep him happy and it seemed to be working. But recently he has started telling me he doesn’t like me and wakes up in the dead of the night and has tantrums and wakes the whole house. He has punched me in the face twice now and glares at me if he’s in the room with me (it is a look of pure hate). It’s hard enough coping with 3 kids on the lack of sleep from a newborn but he adds another 3 hours of tantrums in the middle of the night on top of the newborns waking. It’s making me not want to be around him at all and I can’t even stand to be in the same room as him, and because of his violent and disruptive start in my home it’s bringing up a really negative feeling in me toward him. I really don’t k ow what to do cause I just want our home to be happy for everyone and his behaviour is affecting EVERYONE all over again. My daughter is scared and women all through the night, my newborn is woken all the time by him screaming and yelling day and night (and he sounds demonic when he yells too its really scary even for an adult) and myself and my partner are dead on our feet and struggleing with him all over again. I’m at my wits end and even had the horrible thought of sending him back to his mum cause I just can’t do it anymore!
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Step-son is driving me up the wall HELP
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GirlMum · 24/02/2018 20:17
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