When a mother and father, both exs talk access to the children. Father wants access and mum talks alot about the past and how she feels that she is not appreciated by the ex. And talks about the effort father puts in when he doesn't see them (coz she stops access).
Is this more about her or the children?
Pick and drop offs have been shared but not set in stone so he will pick them up and she tells me where to drop them off. Normally close to his home due to her family living their. Weekend access. The past year or just under he has picked them up and every other week she has got them.
She is on and off with access since my partner and I have been together. Kids allowed to come kids not. Planning christmas changing her mind then sending threats.
Now she's asking for family mediation, and saying it's his time he should pick them up and drop them off. But last week he wasn't allowed them coz he couldn't be trusted to bring them home. (Over christmas plans made she changed them so he said she had to pick them up).
I'm unsure if this is control, something to do with her feelings towards him. But it's definitely not about the kids as in messages to him she only talks about how she feels.
He replied with something saying it's better we are civil for the children, and they know they have 2 parents that love and support them as this is about the children having a relationship with both mum and dad.
I have posted before and it's been suggested that court would be the best option for him. So he has been collecting evidence of all texts etc.
Also he's unsure what to do. I mean he really wants to see his kids but last week she got them to ring him. Saying it's only fair that he picks them up and drops them off. Then he texts to say he's on his way, which she read then left it 30mins to tell him he's not having the kids.
I know all mums feel like they are over worked and do so much while dad's get friday to sunday fun with no drama but realistically what else can he have?
I must admit when my ex and I spit it didn't go easy, he didn't see them and I tried my hardest to do everything I could for him to be in the life. Eventally he started to see the kids and to see how happy they are now is so much better
Why would anyone want to take a child away from their parent?
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Louw12345 · 19/01/2018 08:09
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