Should i be obliged to have 2 step kids while mum goes out to party?
relationship has been less than a year, although we do live together, and admittedly she will do more around the house than i do, and i am at the moment unemployed, and money is a real issue for us. She says that a part of being a step parent is having the kids so she can go out all night, get trashed, and come back between 5 - 8am, which she calls letting her hair down.
i haven't been out once, but she has offered to be fair, but because i couldnt really afford it, and we haven't really been out together much recently, i felt a sense of guilt, and didn't really want to go out. and i have already looked after the kids for 1 night for her, although she was back much earlier than 5am
Kids are 4 and 9, and don't really take me that serioiusly, i try not to shout, but if i don't im hardly listened to, 9 year old has a pretty wild attitude for her age, but loving and caring when she's in the mood.
i fully intend to be working full time soon, So i'm wondering, is she right to expect me to take on the kids like that? would if differ with employment? shouldn't we be going out together instead? if its fair? i'm really unsure and would love some advice.
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Should i be obliged to have 2 step kids while mum goes out to party?
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confusedguy123 · 12/01/2018 20:25
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