I have been in a relationship with my partner for over a year and I have a good relationship with my DPs DS, age 10. He's generally a good kid but have some poor behaviour and manners - He's getting better but it's been about 9 years of constant stress for my DP since he separated from his ex when his DS was 2 years old.
I've always wanted a child of my own, DP not so much but the idea was growing on him the more time we spent together as a family. But I always knew there was a risk that we wouldn't have children together and it's the one thing that's been in the back of both our minds.
The past few weeks have been super stressful for DP and his ex wife, it's reminded DP that he really cant face having another child. But at the same time, I've realised that I can't be happy long term if the only experience I have of parenting is as a step parent - all the upheaval, stress, completely changing lifestyles without any of the "payback" of feeling unconditional love for a child and all those other lovely things say about being a mother. Totally willing for DPs son to be fully part of our lives, but can't help feeling I have a disproportionate about of the bad and not much of the good.
It really doesn't help seeing all my friends with their kids (babies to teens) and I feel like I'm missing out.
Don't know really what I'm asking for here, it's just on my mind and it's making me feel quite down. Anyone experienced anything similar?
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NatPg · 06/01/2018 16:15
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