A few things struck me today when I was having a think about stuff.
• my kids live with a man (my dp) who isn't their dad while their dad lives with their half siblings. They see him at the weekends.
• my ss's live with their mum while their dad lives with kids who aren't his. They see him at the weekends.
• my ex has to handle the fact that 3 of his kids live with a man who isn't him.
• dp works all hours to pay huge maintenance for his kids as his exw refuses to work & so can't see his kids during the week. Dp & exw split mutually.
• my ex works to support 5 kids.
• I work to provide my half for my 3 kids.
• dp & I rarely get a full weekend together as his kids live a 2 hour drive away & have weekend activities. Plus they now don't want to see me (again - on & off for years) as it's "too upsetting for their mum".
The people who are doing best out of this whole scenario are ex's dp who was the OW; moved in to our old (large) home; who gets to have her partner & kids every day & who no longer works because "she doesn't want to", & my dps exw who also refuses to work; who spends money like it's going out of fashion & who treats dp like a glorified babysitter.
No bitterness here, this is life; the rough with the smooth & we just have to get on with it - it's just an observation. However, it seems to me like everyone has had to make sacrifices bar the two aforementioned women who sort of managed to get exactly what they wanted.
Just makes me wonder sometimes what all the rest of us are at!
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Magda72 · 06/12/2017 17:36
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