Hi all, thanks so much for reading this... I can't decide if I'm being mean and need some collective wisdom...
My partner and I have one son each, mine 14 and his 12. The step-parenting relationship has always been good either way and the boys are great friends.
At Christmas my sons Dad and I pool our money and buy our son his gifts together - labelled from all of us, including both our new partners, but my partner and his ex, buy separate gifts for their son, which has been their long-term arrangement and obviously has nothing to do with me.
I would find this totally acceptable accept for the fact that it is so expensive. My partner insists on matching what my ex-partner and I buy together for our son, in terms of monetary value, for his son, despite the fact that his child then gets the same amount of presents again from his Mum so ends up with double the gifts my boy gets.
This strikes me as terribly unfair and puts huge financial strain on Christmas, so I guess my question is am I being unreasonable in asking him to only buy gifts to the same value as my ex-partner each put individually towards gifts for our child?
He will not hear of it, despite the fact that I earn more than he does and essentially fund Christmas, and though I try not to get wound up about it, it riles me something awful!
Thanks in advance.x
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Endlessdilemmas2 · 23/11/2017 16:34
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