I’ve been with my partner almost 4 years now and he has a daughter, 11, who he has every other weekend. We get along ok, she is a challenge at times, but I know she likes me. To be honest I feel a bit redundant as she never really interacts with me, even if I try.
My question is around this: so before me and my partner met he took his daughter to his parents every Friday night he had her, and they stayed the weekend there, as often he had to go to work on the Saturday. Until recently I didn’t realise this was every time. So now, fast forward to today, she’s 11, almost 12 and we have been living together (officially) over a year. We stay at our’s Friday night but then without fail we go to his parents for Saturday night. Today isn’t so bad as we are going over at teatime but there are times we have been there from midday onwards, and we literally don’t do anything until we leave at 5pm on the Sunday. When I say we don’t do anything I mean we sit, tv is on, sometimes people speak sometimes they don’t, and SD plays in her room or on the tablet. After tea she gets to pick a film which she watches with her granddad, me and my partner and his mum also sit there too, and read etc or try and watch it. Then the next day we all sit and watch tv... I’ve tried suggesting things to do so we don’t go over there so soon on the sat, I’ve even started doing over time to give them time alone sat morning! I cannot just ‘sit there’ all that time, it drives me up the wall. And much as I have a good relationship with my partner’s parents I’m in their house- I can’t just pick up my phone, get my laptop out, or just wander to the kitchen to pick something.... am I selfish to say that while I’m ok for them to go on the Saturday night sometimes I will just stay at home??
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stella80 · 11/11/2017 16:30
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