Stbxh and l seperated June after l found out about OW. Since then he has moved out into rented accommodation.
4 weeks after we seperated the children (10yrs and 13yrs) met her. She now stays over when they have contact time with their Dad which is EOW and once during the week for dinner. She is also there during the day too when they are there.
STBX has told the children that they are going to take them abroad on holiday next year (- we never went as couldn't afford it and eldest is autistic so wasn't sure if he'd cope).
I am just so muddled. On one hand l want my boy's to get along with her as it would be better for them and l have never been negative about her...but l also think this is all to quick.
Stbx said she wants to "act like a mum" and "be like a mum" to them and already "thinks like a mum" when shopping for Christmas gifts.
How do other stepfamilies cope? My mum said l should have been firmer about her spending time with them - but he doesn't have any respect for me so l doubt he'd have listened anyway
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NotSureIfiAmWell · 05/10/2017 06:29
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