I am prepared to be shot down in flames about this but I am very upset. My DSD is nearly 7 and overall we have a great relationship - I was not OW and I have known her for 2 1/2 years. My DS lives with us fulltime and is 7; they get on well Recently she has has been having tantrums, sulking very clingy to DH - not surprising in some regard as DH and I married this year and moved in together. I have struggled with her fighting with me for DH's attention and she can't bear it if she is told off - massive sulk and tantrum etc. This weekend has been a nightmare; she has been sulking and having tantrums above everything. DH kept her away from a party yesterday as her behaviour was so bad; except that when she stopped crying he took her there; she refused to leave his side and join in and he ended up carrying her the whole time. At bedtime, we all lie on the big bed and read a bedtime story together. Last night she told DH that she wanted him to sleep on my side (nearer the door, even though she never wakes in the night but DS does); he readily agreed so she lay down on that side of the bed; then DH, then DS and then me. However, not enough room for me so I asked her to shift along a bit. DH then shouted at me that I had enough room and that she was on the edge of the bed (not true!) and if I didn't like it, I could leave. I was so upset that I did. We haven't spoken since. I am so upset that he spoke to me like that in front of the children and seemingly took her "side". Even though I don't see a battle for affection is needed. She obviously does. What am I going to do?! I don't want her to feel that there is a need to fight for her father's love. DH's disciplines to a point and then gives in to her as he doesn't want to be the bad dad as he doesn't see her all the time and I think she is becoming spoilt. He doesnt hold back on my DS though. Any advice please?
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IshouldntcareaboutthisbutIdo · 01/10/2017 17:21
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