My partner's daughter is 13 y/o. She was originally living with him after being took off her mom when she was 3. We moved into our own flat last year and she has been coming and going as she pleases since then. At the beginning of this year we found out she was self harming and saying that she wanted to die and hated her life. She was referred to CAMHS and was seeing them through school. She has been staying with my partner's mom and dad by her choice and them letting her and coming back to us when she wants to/is sent for one reason or another. She came back at the beginning of the week as my partner's aunt came to stay with his mom and dad and they didn't have room for everyone. She stayed one night and then went back to their house. I had bought a new pair of jeans (expensive for me) however they didn't fit so I planned to take them back and exchange them for the next size. The next day they had gone from the chair I had left them on ready to go back. I asked my partner to ask his daughter if she had picked them up by mistake and she said no. We have both looked for them everywhere and couldn't find them so he rang his mom and asked if she could check whether his daughter had them. She checked and it turned out she had even though she had previously denied it. It turns out that she has been stealing other things and lying about it. Am I being unreasonable in refusing to have her in my house when she is lying and stealing and refusing to look after her by myself when he is at work? I do not trust a word that comes out of her mouth and am worried that it is not just us she is stealing from but other people and possibly even shops.
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xxk8xx88 · 29/09/2017 10:58
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