Obviously I'm the step parent and I'm not involved in the contact arrangement but just wondering how other separated parents do it? My DP initiated discussion with his ex re Xmas hols to give both of them plenty of time to make arrangements. School breaks up for on 22nd, leaving two days before xmas day and the rest of the hols after.
The 24th, 25th and 26th are governed by the Court Order and they alternate every year, so my DP tries to arrange time either side of these days so DSS has time with both mum and dad in the run up and after the big day and is therefore able to do "normal" stuff both sides as he would if his parents were together i.e visiting family, wrapping presents, preparing and all that.
The ex is trying to dictate the hols based on what she wants to happen because of her work (she recently started her own business). My DP had proposed arrangements which took her work into account throughout (easy handovers in line with her hours) but shes trying to prevent DSS from spending the Saturday before Xmas with Dad (bearing in mind DSS spends the 24th with her this year).
How do other separated couples do it? While I could be said to be biased, I do think my DP is being reasonable as he is trying to give his son the best of both, being able to spend time before and after Xmas Day with both of them. I'd just like to know how Christmas is split in other separated families and how it works for the kiddies!
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Aeriefairy · 25/09/2017 17:02
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