Morning folks,
So dp has finally lost it with his ex neglect and bs over her treatment of their kids and although he won't allow me to involve social services he has issued her with an ultimatium that even the kids have asked to be upheld.
It may seem utterly trivial but she refuses to treat them for nits. Doesn't think it is an issue in spite of the fact that dsd is being bullied at school as they are literally crawling over her face.
We treat them every time they are here and comb through, the kids are combing through themselves but all the treatments advise to retreat after 7 days to ensure cycle is broken and she is refusing. We have provided the stuff, shown her pics of the state of their hair and she thinks we are making it up.
Dsd also has toilet issues, at 11 still wets and messes although she has been much better over the summer. Mum claims this doesn't happen at hers but we know it's bull as one of the reasons dsd hides her dirty underwear is because her mum screams at her and she is scared it will happen here too. It doesn't at all, she gets told off for hiding it not for the incident, we know she can't help it. There is no medical reason as she has been fully checked over etc but it is worse when she is worried about things.
The last 2 weekends she has been with us she has been in tears as I have combed her hair. Her scalp is littered in scabs as is her neck, it is hurting her because if eggs etc.
Kids have said be their preference is to stay living with mum if she starts treating them properly and dealing with the nits rather than bitching about it but dsd has asked if she can come and live here if her mum refuses because she is fed up of scratching and being picked on.
We have said of course she can, and dp has told his ex that this is what will happen at next contact weekend if she doesnt start dealing with it.
There is jo court order in place so we have jo issues there but do we need to do anything else regarding change of residence other than notify school and doctor etc?
Also, any idea if he would still have to pay her maintenance if they live here? She would still have them every other weekend so, it obviously isn't something we would stop until we know it's happening but we can't afford the added expenses we would incur on top of paying her what we do.
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wheresthel1ght · 18/09/2017 09:45
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