Hiya,
Last time my stepson was with us I had printed off some photos (we had taken him to a theme park) and had made about 5 copies for him of him on rides thinking he might like to take them home with him. He actually asked if he could take more and he went through them and chose quite a few including 4 of me and him together. The rest were either of him, our pets or him and his dad.
He's come to us now and said his mum won't let him have them! Am I wrong to say she's being absolutely ridiculous? He chose the photos and he asked to take them with him, so now we are going to remove the 4 photos which feature me and stepson and try again. Maybe she has personal issue with her and my partners son having nice photos of his life with his dad? But they're for him, not her! Am I completely wrong?? If my parents had separated when I was young I'd have wanted photos of me and my dad at my mums house, for me to look at in my room 
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Step child's mother won't let him have photos?!
Aeriefairy · 08/09/2017 23:05
It's crazy, does she not think about the message she's giving to him?! Not allowed photos of dad/paternal grandparents/pets etc because mum doesn't want them there... we have loads of photos round the house here already he just wanted to have some at his mums house where he lives most of the time 
He's seven, nearly eight.. but very switched on about things! He asks his dad how long he is supposed to be with him, and said he wants to know because his mum gets angry at his dad I think he's very aware of his mums angry feelings towards us. I've not had kids myself yet so have become a stepmum without the benefit of that experience but I like to think I would know better than to behave the way she's doing. I could sympathise if my partner had left her for me/someone else and she felt wronged but it still wouldn't make it right
swingofthings the funny thing is we paid for the tickets using my clubcard vouchers, they were free 
we've noticed whenever he's asked about his life with mum (not that we grill him just might ask what he had for lunch so we can give him something different for dinner, or if he did anything nice etc) he can't remember..this kid has an amazing memory so we believe he's being told not to say anything we aren't actually interested but just don't want him to keep his life compartmentalised.
heidiwine that would be hilarious if it wasn't so vile, So childish! Sort of thing I can imagine being in a sitcom but not what you expect in real life!
The reason I believe this is that he remembers everything he does with us, even things we can't remember and describes absolutely everything else (what happened at school, friends parties) with astounding detail. He can recall film scripts word for word! His lack of recall only surrounds anything to do with what he's done with his mum 
Awful. ExDP and I have been split up for 6 years. Our DDs have a wall of photos in their bedroom. They include old ones of us as a family, me and him before we had the DC, new ones of him and them, of me and them, of their paternal family. Why wouldn't they?!
My mother was beyond spiteful and vile towards me Dad. Which took some nerve considering he caught her and his brother at it for a second time and that's why he left. Didn't know that till just recently though. She told us he'd met someone else and wanted to be her husband and father to her kids instead 
Boatmistress17 that's appalling kids make up their own minds as they get older!
Mombie2016 why wouldn't they, exactly! It's the child's room and the childs life which includes both his mums family and his dad's family. He loves viewing and taking photos and has two cameras of his own here as well has using our phones and his tablet to take snaps.
Sweetluck no one wants photos of their ex around but this little boy picked out the photos himself and asked if me and his dad if he could take them home with him, she's been told they were provided at his request, she doesn't have to look at them! They're for him to have in his little photo album and look at in his room makes me worry for the future, will she go through all his personal possessions and filter what she isn't happy with? We know now she's told stepson she doesn't think it's appropriate that he has photos of his dad at home and he told us she was very angry
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