It would be great to hear ideas and suggestions from people who are introverted but living in an extroverted (step)family. Do you have tips and techniques to help you thrive? And how do you get down-time without being seen as rejecting - especially of the DSCs?
I'm asking the question on this board as it's the step-family dynamic that I find makes this hard - my need for 'down time' is taken by DH as a dig at the DSCs rather than the need by someone to have the space they need to function well. My own DC likes their own time and space so its not an issue with them.
Two years ago I had depression and, in hindsight, some form of breakdown. I think a large trigger for that was that everything over the previous years just got too much; demanding job, endless changes of the DSCs living arrangements decided by their Mum (and as a consequence me being needed by them massively when she was out of the picture then having to step back when she reappeared), keeping a large and busy household running etc.
I was a single parent for a long time before I married DH, worked full-time, lived away from my family, did it all without support. I regarded myself as someone who coped with everything, who got stuff done - I'm a shadow of that now. Since my depression I feel like everything has been drained out of me so that there is absolutely nothing left to give to anyone. I feel like something has fundamentally changed in me and my ability to cope with normal everyday life has just evaporated so I feel permanently mentally exhausted. I never seem to be able to build up any kind of reserve of mental energy to enable me to function well. I know I am withdrawing from everyone as a way of coping - and this is seen as very rejecting rather than as the only way I feel I can keep going.
I'm looking for ideas about how other people function in this situation please. How do you get the down time you need, how do you communicate it to others? How do you build up reserves of mental energy to be able to look after a family? Thanks
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Pinkdragon1 · 25/08/2017 10:09
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