My SS spent the summer with his bio mum (we live in the USA, and as usual now that it's time for him to come back, she is starting arguments and fights with my s/o to try to get SS to stay with her. Except this time, she told us all the things he was teling her about living here. Meanwhile he's on the phone with his dad, telling him he can't wait to come home and his mum is trying to manipulate him into staying there. Yet he's told her that his dad has anger issues and he doesn't feel like he can talk to him, that I ignore him and his dad spends all his time with me and we leave him out and don't do anything with him, things of that sort. None of which is true, and none of which we have ever heard from the SS. He is a very manipulative child- having had a sister just like that, I tend to see it right away while his dad either chooses not to or is honestly blind to it. While he was here with us he would tell us how his mother was never home, she was always either working or out partying, and that he was forced to babysit his sister all the time and had no freedom, and also that her ex husband used to beat him with belts. Nevermind that her children have been taken from her more than once due to drugs and parole problems, which is how he ended up here with us in the first place.
My question is what should I do?! I told my husband that I felt SS is manipulating both him and bio mum to get what he wants. He didn't disagree with me. I think a big part of this has to do with his bio mum is more lenient than his father with things like grades and behaviour- bio mum is blaming us for his slipping grades, when I've watched my s/o do literally everything he can short of holding the kids hand and doing his work for him to try to help him. I am at my wits end with both SS and bio mum.
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Help! Manipulative teen stepson w/ bossy bio mum
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petal318 · 16/08/2017 15:28
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