I have 2 DSDs age 10 and 12 and a son age 4. I have always adored DSDs who i've known since they were tiny and we've always had a pretty perfect step parent relationship but as they are getting older I have been finding it harder as my expectations of their behaviour increase. They quarrel endlessly, things like their manners drive me mad (never thanking waiting staff at a restaurant unless prompted, one actually spat out a drink on the ground in the garden area of a posh restaurant recently), they have to be prompted to help in any way...all normal i guess but it's difficult as my 4 yr old is v well behaved by comparison! Their home life at their mum's is extremely regimented and strict (i have never come across so many strict rules...week long tv ban for not hanging uniform up properly or having elbows on a table!) and they behave very well there and by contrast, life with us is relaxed as their dad is v indulgent but he goes too much the other way imo. If i ask them to tidy their rooms he will do it for them for example. They say it is like being on holiday with us. I have instilled some rules which they reacted well to but my husband is not good at enforcing them. It has caused quite a lot of friction recently and as we approach teenage years I don't want to be the bad cop always. I've tried talking to my husband but nothing changes. Do i leave the discipline up to him for an easier life, scivvy around tidying up after them and accept they aren't well mannered? The difficulty is i do not want my 4 yr old copying the bad behaviour? Anyone else been here?
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