I'm getting married in the summer and my husband to be has children, the youngest of which is nearly 21. She has an 18 month old child and is a single mother.
I too have kids but all grown up.
My fiancé is very generous with his daughter but she's manipulative and always asking for money which he just doles out. The money thing is his decision and I've always thought if I had a step family I'd keep out of the relationship, which I have done and will continue to do so. However, regardless of my approach, I'm being dragged into difficulties.
I rarely see the daughter and my intended sees her and his grandson two other days a week. This weekend, just happened that we were both free at the same time. I've cooked, cleaned, looked after the child and opened my home to them willingly. She appeared to have a nice time and I packed her up with food for a few days.
All good until my intended tells me today that he's ex was in touch. The daughter upset that she doesn't get to spend time with her dad without me there ..... this is the first weekend in a year and a half this has occurred. He's confused and upset as he thought we all had a nice day and he can't understand why she asked his ex wife to speak with him about it rather than discussing directly with him.
How do other people cope with becoming involved in a step family? I've no wish to become her "step mother", just want to do what is right not to put my man in a difficult position.
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Concentrateonthegood · 08/05/2017 19:14
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