Hi ladies
I am new to this whole 'step parenting' thing, my OH and I have just moved in together, I have two DDs and he has a DS and a DD.
We have his two quite a lot but the trouble is, they are so badly behaved! They are rude, they speak to adults like sh*t, they don't have any manners, they're manipulative, they want constant attention and he doesn't do anything about it!
Actually, that's not strictly true, occasionally he tells them off and I think 'yes!' but the next time he'll let it go. He's not consistent. I've heard from DPs Mum that the ex wife (kids Mum) is not particularly discipline conscious either.
I know that DP still harbours a lot of guilt for leaving his family and I think that's part of the reason he won't discipline his children.
When my DDs are here at the same time, there are lots of arguments because his children are mean to my eldest (6). My youngest is too young to really care so she doesn't get involved. But I feel so sorry for my 6 year old because she bears the brunt of the hostility from them. There are times when they get on like a house on fire but also weekends where all they do is fight.
When it's a weekend where mine are with their Dad, I just want to go out and not be around my 'step kids' because of their behaviour. However I feel I can't do that because DP is so good with my children when his aren't here. But mine are well behaved and dont cause any trouble!
Any advice from someone who has lived this would be much appreciated? This is a new beginning for me and I love DP dearly, I am just finding the 'step mum' thing a huge challenge.
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seaweedandsand · 06/05/2017 18:17
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