So this is a complicated one....
I met my ex, we will call him John 6 years ago. We fell head over heels in love and very quickly i got pregnant and had my daughter now 5 followed by a son who's now 4. Well by the time i was pregnant with my son John had been controling, violent, thrown me and my daughter out the house in our PJs in the snow, cheated on me, took drugs, refused to watch our daughter so i had to quit work and let them down time and time again with access arrangements. back then i still loved him and kept letting him walk in and out of our lives for another year or so. He was violent, arrested and prisoned at one point, but still continued to try and win me back even though he couldn't of been any less interested in our kids. Eventually I packed up with my babies and moved 45 miles away. I met someone else. An amazing man who has taken on my kids as his own, they adore him and now call him dad and we have gone on to have our own child together. After an horrific relationship with John me and the children are finally happy and safe.
John was trying to win me back right up until last year when he found out i was pregnant to my new partner, and since that point he has got a new girlfriend, turned up at my house on 3 occasions with his girlfriend late at night demanding to see the kids leading to police being called because i was heavily pregnant. His new girlfriend sends me abusive texts calling me a bad mum and threatening to beat me up for keeping him away from his kids. He hasn't paid any maintanance and constantly keeps threatening to take me to court. I've told him to do so as my kids need stability, something he has never given them but i think the cost is putting him off. Now I'm receiving letters from his first child (9) from a previous relationship to the kids asking if they can persuade me to let them see her... who gets a child involved. I have John, his girlfriend, his family and even his ex making out like I'm a monster for trying to protect my kids. It's getting me down. He takes drugs, and has such a temper. The thought of him behaving that way round my kids terrifies me.
Am i doing the right thing keeping him away?
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Lottiebear84 · 19/04/2017 18:07
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