I have a lovely Stepson who is 9. He comes to us every weekend and usually he is a delight, lovely and helpful, mature and sweet. I have however noticed that whenever we do things with extended family members (his cousin's, aunts and uncles etc) he really changes and cries all the time, throws tantrums and is generally just mopey and miserable. At these points without fail he always says he wants to see his mum and kicks off further if it isn't possible. Does anyone have any idea why this could be?
For example last weekend we had a BBQ where we invited my DH's family around, my DSS's cousin's who he says he loves to play with etc. Suddenly he started crying and noticing this I sat down with him and had a chat, he told me he was upset because he doesnt see much of his mum when he is home and now he wasn't going to see her for another two nights and he was sad due to that. I took him out for a walk to the shops to get an ice lolly by himself hoping that would distract him and he seemed fine, but as soon as we got back to the bbq he started hysterically crying again. My DH tried talking to him and offered him to call his DM, which he did, but he told her the reason he was upset was because he didnt want to play with his half sister? (who was playing quite happily with her cousin at this point and hadn't really bothered DSS at all) I was rather miffed at this, although didnt say anything. DH had a chat with her about what he had said to us and she got rather defensive about it so I don't know if DSS felt like he couldn't tell her how he really felt or if he was telling us both seperate things.
I spoke to him the morning after and he told me he gets jealous as everyone has their mum's there and he doesn't and he feels like she doesn't have time for him (she works and he comes to us every weekend so maybe this is why?) But again, he tells his DM different so I am unsure whether he is being entirely honest about things?
Just after some advice really, he is a sensitive boy, always has been, but it is horrible seeing him so upset whenever we are around other people and was wondering if anyone had every experienced anything like this and if there is anything we can do that will help?
Thanks in advance!
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Cleorapter · 13/04/2017 12:32
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