Hi all,
So I'm 9 months into attempting to step parent (and I'm not even sure I'd use that term, I don't feel like a parent) a nearly six year old boy and I'm struggling to bond with him. I have two dd's of my own, both younger (3 and 2) and as much as I want to I just can't bond with Dss. He's not naughty, and my girls get along well with him.
Practically I cook and clean after him, I worry about his welfare but when he's here, I just find him irritating. I'm not sure if it's because he's nearly six and it's an age thing, or if it's because he's a boy and I have no experience of parenting them... or simply if because I have my own it's harder to bond with a child who is not mine.
I also find my DP's lack of rules for him a bit annoying and assume the two issues might be linked. DSS's mum does a great job with him and her and my DP are able to get along well so no issues there. My DP is amazing with my girls and I always feel awful that I don't feel the same way.
Not sure what I'm hoping for by posting tbh, maybe just some reassurance that it gets better. I really want to like him, I don't know why I'm not.
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Struggling with bonding
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unsurestepmum · 04/03/2017 13:40
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