I just meed a little reassurance for my sanity.
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He has a 8 year old daughter that we have EVERY weekend. She is great. We both actually like each other and get along well. My problem is with my boyfriend and how he balances the two of us.
We have discussed me disciplining his daughter and in one moment he is happy for me to teach her manners and help raise her to be a polite, well behaved young lady. On the other hand he doesn't want to be seen siding with me. If i say 'no' to her eating candy, he likes to say 'yes' to spite me, make me the bad guy all so his daughter doesn't think he is siding with me!!!! His words.
I tell him we need to be a team. If he doesn't want me to say anything i won't but he can't undermine me in front of her and go against what i say. I know she is not my daughter but then he needs to step up and not be afraid to say 'no'.
He thinks i am creating drama when i bring this to his attention but I am trying to tell him that it is his actions that create the tension. She is smart and she can see how to play Daddy against me.
I need help on what to do with my involvement with my sd or with how to explain things to my boyfriend.
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BonusNatty · 27/02/2017 02:28
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